Working online is very beneficial, because therapy is done from home, comfortably and informally. In the case of couples therapy, the good thing is that being both members of the couple at home all day (or much of the day), it is easier to make appointments and have unhurried session time. This is a very good time to do couples therapy online, which is just as effective as working in person. Couple and confinement During confinement, it is completely normal for conflicts to arise between couples (orin thefamily), as it coexists for much longer, with new routines and within an alarm state context. It is normal to face such conflicts. Another thing is to be going through a delicate moment in our relationship. This is when confinement is an unsusitious scenario for couples who were already dragging some kind of crisis or a previous unstable situation. Confinement can enhance this type of crisis and lead us to a very delicate and unstable situation, which will be greatly aggravated by the fact that we have to continue to live together in a imperative way. It is for this reason that if this type of situation occurs, the idea of making a couple's therapy (online) should be contemplated. It is worth noting the fact that in China every day the number of divorces increases due to confinement. This not only happens in that country, but is a situation that occurs in any country that has confinement, since after living several weeks (and months) intensely, it produces an increase in divorces or, if not, that large partner crises occur. However, it must be said that the increase in the number of divorces and/or separations is not caused by the mere fact of being confined or by over-coexistence, but is a consequence of crises that have been dragged over time, that is, relationships that were already bad before confinement and which are aggravated or exploited during confinement. That is why it is very important to detect if there are problems in the relationship, if there is a crisis in the love bond and see if it is possible to take the relationship forward. Confinement can cause the relationship to break down for good, but the crisis can be overcome with online couples therapy, and it is beneficial to strengthen the relationship. The method of online couples therapy First of all, it is important to say that therapy is performed with the two members of the couple, either separately or at the same time, using a video call program or application, for example Skype, Zoom, Microsoft Team, etc. and it is essential to have an Internet connection.
Cross interviews: se tries to do interviews with each of the members of the couple and what is intended is to cross the daos, seeing that the initial problem is clear. It can last 15 minutes each.
Session together: then we move on to having a joint session in which I give objectives, how many sessions we are going to do, where we will work, etc.
Inter-session tasks: Taking into account the current situation and the availability of each, tasks are left to perform between sessions to implement all aspects that arise in the sessions, focused on reinforcing the weaknesses of the relationship.
Follow-up procedures: In most cases, these are between 8 and 10 sessions, the problem is solving.
The importance of commitment to therapy: an important aspect before tackling therapy is that the people you are going to work with in partner therapy are fully motivated and give 100% to solve the problem. If not, you can't start doing therapy and it's wise to wait or look for other ways.
Techniques for working in couples therapy Techniques for working in couples therapy (and psychological therapy) are tools used to add, eliminate, enhance and change the different variables that are causing and maintaining partner problems. It is necessary to take into account the individual characteristics of each member of the couple and in which areas the problems are located, as well as how they are related, before applying one technique or another. Likewise as a couple, they will have to assess which variables or areas would act first in the intervention. Techniques for working in couples therapy depending on the area: Area No. 1: Sexuality It is one of the areas that is most affected when there are problems or conflicts in a couple. Technique: fostering sexual fantasies Both members of the couple write down three separate sexual fantasies and then exchange them to carry them out. It is important that both members write down each sexual fantasy in detail. Area #2: Cognitive Aspects Relationships are conditioned by the beliefs, expectations, attributions and ratings made by each partner of their relationship. From these cognitive aspects, the satisfaction of the relationship is determined to some extent. Most people have an idea about what a couple should bring to them, the needs that will satisfy them, and how they need to do it to achieve it. Technique: Complaint time. What's bothering you? To see absurd discussions that lead nowhere and develop a pattern of more realistic interpretations, both members of the couple will have to write in a notebook throughout the week what bothers them. They will then choose a certain time of the week to communicate to the other as detailedly as possible. It is important that when both members communicate complaints, they do so first one and then the other, justifying why and how they think it could be done in a different way. Shifts need to be respected. Area No. 3: Personal, couple and family space Knowing how to delimit in a relationship what space is to be dedicated to the couple, the family and yourself, is fundamental to the satisfaction and balance of the couple. Technique: scheduling activities It is important that the members of the couple, become aware of the relevance of each of these spaces and that they know how to plan and maintain certain activities over time. they will have to answer the following questions together:
What are you going to do in your personal space?
What are you going to do together and how long a week?
When and how will all family members share time together?
When and how will they share space with political families?
When and how will you share time with friends as a couple and alone?
It is important that among the members of the couple there is a consensus and negotiation in each of the areas. Area No. 4: Jealousy Jealousy in one or both partners can turn a relationship into a story of suffering and personal dissatisfaction. Technique: in the face of such a situation, it is important
Make a list of those situations in which you are jealous, which will allow you to observe situations objectively.
Evaluate and identify where jealousy comes from (lack of trust between both members or oneself, previous experiences, insecurities, etc.).
Avoid proven behaviors at all times, as they produce momentary relief from discomfort, but cause suffering to be perpetuated.
Establish and accept the spaces to be shared and those that will be individual.
These are just a few of the many techniques used in clinical psychology for couples therapy.
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