All problems have a solution, it is no exception with problems in marriage. However, this is so, if they are willing and motivated to do so.
Any marital crisis can be reversed, if you learn how to do it. You may think that getting out of the marital crisis you have is impossible and it's normal to think like that. Everyone feels powerless when they feel their marriage is falling apart.
The infatuation passes and many couples dissolve. You and your partner don't feel the same way anymore. They've lost that illusion of the beginning. However, love can be saved.
Patterns of toxic behavior in a marriage Which one do you identify with?
Before implementing a method that allows you to get your marriage back, you need to know what situation you and your partner are in.
Learn about toxic behaviors and determine which or which of them feel identified:
1. Silence or flight
It is characterized by the woman responding hostilely and the man shuts up or tries to retire. In this way, the woman increases her hostility and the man has an attitude that is increasingly closed and negative. This attitude ends in a crisis. While it is usually man who shuts up or flees, in many marriages it can be reversed.
2. The Law of Ice
Refusing to acknowledge mistakes, avoid talking about problems, not answering questions, not looking at the other when talking, constantly interrupting it, are behaviors that are part of the so-called "ice law". In it, no matter what one spouse says, no matter the argument, the other person does not listen, does not reason and closes completely in itself avoiding the resolution of the crisis.
3. Gestures of hatred or disrespect
Blank eyes, biting your upper lip, making the gesture with your index finger in threat, screaming, slams, are hateful gestures triggering conflict. So are disrespect, disqualifications, insults, humiliations in front of children or others, and physical violence
4. Negative attention
One behavior a couple in crisis usually has is to pay attention only to each other's negative behaviors, without paying attention to positive behaviors. Sometimes each spouse lives "waiting" to see their partner behave negatively or violently and act accordingly, with hate gestures or disrespect, ice law, silence or flight. These responses are usually not provoked by each other's behavior and have no basis but negative emotions.
5. Mistaken beliefs
Some of a person's beliefs may be the cause of a conflict. One of the mistaken beliefs is to believe that the couple should be able to know each other's thoughts, emotions and desires. This causes the person to respond with any of the toxic behaviors. Another mistaken belief is to think that disagreement is the cause of the crisis. In a strong relationship, disagreements can be constructive and further strengthen the relationship if you know how to deal with them.
Positively influence your partner and reverse the crisis
Why is a marriage falling apart?
The first reason is the reproaches, accusations and fights that spouses have to endure on a daily basis. The more you focus on your partner's flaws, the more emphasis you put on them and everything revolves around the inconveniences. However, if you implement daily harmony habits (small tricks to influence your spouse's emotional state), the situation will change every day.
For you and your partner to change, they need to develop validation. It's about opening your way to new possibilities that you haven't taken into account until now. You have to go back to intimacy with your partner, get your spouse fully surrendered, to consolidate a strong and stable marriage.
They must avoid "power" conflicts, the small daily problems that prevent the relationship from remaining stable. For example, the fights for the grooming man, who takes care of the children, who runs the finances, who does the shopping. These are fundamental aspects that wear down the relationship. Avoiding conflicts and changing a "bad" situation in a "good" situation, you learn and implement it through strategies, steps to follow that will allow you to achieve your goals one by one. It's a simple but methodical job, a step-by-step job that you have to do in order to move on to the next one (like going looking for a product in a store and crossing it out from the shopping list).
The method proposed in the book "Save Your Marriage Forever" is a step by step and can be modified to your liking, according to your preferences and you need to do so, because each person is different and each marriage is a world. However, the steps to follow are the same in each case, you will only have to adapt them to your situation.
Re-discover intimacy and sex
Sexual intercourse between a man and a woman is closely linked to the emotional state of each spouse. Unsatisfactory sex or lack thereof cause irritation and fights, which in turn causes less sexual desire and can lead to infidelity of one or both partners, which can destroy marriage.
Infidelity is difficult to forgive, but it is essential to save marriage. The solution to this problem is to make sure that it is not repeated and to do so, you need to know how to improve the intimateness between you and how to rediscover sex together, to refresh the relationship and maintain marriage forever.
The book does not teach sex, but gives the tools so that together, they can feel the intense happiness of being together intimately again.
Boost your self-esteem
A very high proportion of marriages have one of these problems: low self-esteem or they had to live with an unsafe partner..
People who belittle each other tend to have conflicting relationships and have less stable partners, as they tend to assume that their partner sees them as they seethemselves and act accordingly. It's the typical case of a woman reacting by getting in love with her partner when she tells her she looks pretty, thinks he's joking and a conflict arises.
To a greater or lesser extent, people with low self-esteem find it hard to believe that they can be loved unconditionally by their partners. This does not mean that the problem cannot be the insecurity of man, but rather means that women's insecurity is easier to perceive, because they are emotionally more open.
If you have low self-esteem, you can overcome it, and if it's your partner who doesn't have enough self-esteem, you can help.
Method to save your marriage
Isabel Meyer, the author of the book "Save Your Marriage Forever," had a major crisis in her marriage, about to split up. However, he managed to save his marriage by following a method with a series of steps. I create a practical method with "simple tasks" that must be fulfilled to solve problems and rebuild marriage.
This method not only helps prevent divorce, but transforms married life to enjoy each of the moments that happen together. This method is available in digital format for easy access, allowing you to start the method immediately. The book is a guide you can read anytime, anywhere. It is fast to read and can feel easily identified. When accessing the guide, you must choose the appropriate sex (the techniques to apply are different according to the sex).
The procedure is very simple: the guide is downloaded, the advice is read and applied based on your personal experience, at your discretion and according to the marital crisis you are going through. You should pay special attention to problem-solving techniques, as they are the key to healing the relationship. No chapters should be skipped and put into practice in order to see the results. Reference:
Meyer, I. Salva tu matrimonio para siempre. Consultado el 20 de junio de 2020 de la página https://www.salvatumatrimonioparasiempre.com/?ref=E28748185W
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